While reading the Triangular Theory of Love, all I kept thinking about was my five year relationship with my boyfriend. This really made me take into account the many ways that we express our love. The three components of love, according to this theory are: intimacy, passion, and decision/commitment. There has to be a common balance present between all three sides of the triangle when in a relationship because the amount of love may be right, but the kind of love may not, which can ultimately cause unhappiness and strains. In my relationship, I noticed that we love each other in our own personal way and sometimes we may fight about the love we are receiving in return. This reading scared me when Sternberg mentioned, “Without expression, even the greatest loves can die.” I now see flaws in my relationship and realize that my boyfriend has a problem communicating and expressing himself towards me. He needs to work on the liking side of the triangle, but the question will be if he will be open to change. I have to be responsible and guide him to make this relationship the best that it can be. We all want a chance at reaching consummate love even though it is hard to attain. I want the passion in my relationship to last forever and I now know that I will be faced with many challenges where I will have to maintain and watch over all three sides of this triangle. Why does love have to be so difficult?
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